Retirement 9: Four Ways to Discover Your Authentic Self

What look do you want?

How do you discover your authentic self by looking in the mirror? This might seem like a strange question that has little to do with life in retirement, but the answer is revealing because the look we pursue says something about us.  It says, “This is the face I’m showing to the world.  This is what I want to be.”

Will the real you please stand up!

For some, it’s professional dye jobs and plastic surgery.  For others, it’s the decision to stop all that stuff.  I know of one coworker who said if she ever had a car accident just remember that L’Oreal # 56 was her hair color.  Another friend said, “I just ignore my wrinkly neck and wear low-necked shirts.

My daughter-in-law recently asked me how long I was going to remain a blonde. “Oh, forever, I’m never going to stop coloring my hair.”  Continue reading Retirement 9: Four Ways to Discover Your Authentic Self

Retirement 6: Replace your work purpose


 

Retirement is a departure from the purpose of work and also the routine of work.  You already know the compensation ends.  The routine that surrounds and supports your work also ends.

Find your new purpose?

When the purpose ends so does the routine that surrounds and supports your work.   You know the routine that I’m talking about:

  • Preparing clothing for work
  • Planning ahead for fixing dinner. Need to stop at the store on the way home?
  • Buying your lunch?  Fix a lunch.
  • If there’s family, getting them up and off to their destinations.
  • Gas in the car?
  • Setting the alarm for 1-2 hours before starting the commute.
  • The commute. Is it an hour each way? Less? More?  Allow for traffic, weather.
  • To do List to clear up what wasn’t finished yesterday. Start on new projects.
  • Family activities after work?
  • Stop at the dry cleaners.

After retirement, that routine changes drastically.  The drain on your time changes from all the tasks listed above to “What am I going to do today?”  Sure you still need to keep up with the laundry, the meals planned and the family attended to, though they probably have their own homes by now. You have all day to deal with these items and if not today, then tomorrow works too.

Find Your New Purpose

 Now is the time to shift your passions and probe your curiosity to identify your new purpose in retirement.

Purpose evolves as you pass through the many phases of your life.  This may stem from passions from the past or desires at one time or another that you didn’t have time to pursue. In retirement your constraints are lessened because you may be downsizing your home, the kids are through college, the car is paid for, the weddings are over and you are into the next phase.

Positive feedback always feels good. It can happen outside of work.

Now, the “job well done” may only come from inside you after retirement, but the truth of the statement still resonates.  And it may resonate on a much more personal level that will have residuals that far out-distance a title and a salary.

 

 

How do you find purpose?

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Retirement 1: Creating a Retirement Life Plan

Okay, so you have this precious new gift.  40-60 hours a week that you haven’t had for the past several years.  How will you fulfill your life?… not your work life, your retired life?  How will you use these 60- minute gifts?

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Newly Retired? Take a couple weeks of vacation.

Take a couple of “vacation weeks” and decide.  If you want to sleep for two weeks, do it.  If you want to lay on the beach with your toes in the sand, do it. These hours are YOURS!

After decompression from a workweek filled up by others, decide how to arrange this next very important phase of your life? Your expanded life.  Your freed-up life!

Celebrate the end of ‘Ambition at Work’

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Retirement Plan Needed: Ask retired people

Direct research through our recent Focus Group discussion provided first-hand information for retirement preparation.  Not the financial part; the what will I do all day part.

Focus group, discussing how to stay positive in retirement.
Shirley, Maura and Jacquie at Focus Group Discussion.

Research includes our own experiences working with seniors in our careers.

However, direct research adds immediate validity to the importance of planning the “daily living” part of retirement.

The participants, all over 55,  live in an active adult community.

  • Some are single, divorced or widowed; some are married.
  • Several participants actively volunteer.
  • A couple of participants work part time.
  • Many are involved in golf, tennis, chorus, book club and church.
  • Most traveled extensively
  • Two boated from “up North” to Florida and one continued to live on their boat.

What would they suggest to incoming retirees?

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Five Fabulous Ways to Improve Your Memory and Have Fun Doing It!

In my last post about healthy aging, we explored some basic ways to protect the brain.  I promised in that post to provide some additional fun and effective ideas to improve memory for now and in the future.  Here’s a list that can easily be incorporated into daily life.  Choose one or two or go for all of them.

How to Improve Your Memory

You’ll love video games, and so will your brain!
  1. Challenge your brain.  You can read or do crosswords or watch football or play cards or brain games.  Any or all of these are good.  Make it even more effective by doing something new.  If you’ve done crosswords forever, try learning to play video games.  They’re not just for kids. Lots of research shows that the brain loves learning something novel.

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Baby Boomers Struggle with Senior Marketing

Senior mail- did someone put an”S” for senior on my mailbox? Bringing in the Mail.

I went out to get the mail this week and walked inside with three exciting offers:

  1. one for a free dinner to talk about hearing aids,
  2. one for a free dinner to discuss cremation options, and
  3. one for (you guessed it!) a free dinner to talk over the benefits of purchasing an annuity.

Geez!  I used to get catalogs for lingerie from Frederick’s of Hollywood which, at least, had an element of fantasy!   Those days are long gone.

Dinner Discussions?

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