Begin by being as good to yourself as you’d be to a friend. Most of us tend to be pretty hard on ourselves. Pay yourself first.
Think back to the times that you’ve been far more accepting and forgiving to others in your life than you were to yourself and see if you can’t cut yourself some slack. There’s nothing selfish in that.
Special gifts just for you.
Start by doing things that enrich you – your body, your mind, and your soul. Find things that nurture you and make you feel good about yourself. They can be big things – traveling to South America – or small things – learning to bake the perfect pie!
Increase your self esteem and self confidence.
Applying these gifts to your life will increase your sense of self and your self-confidence. Research echoes these suggestions. Take a look at this excerpt from Psychology Today.
“As we learn better self-care, we become better people in general. When we are in touch with our own feelings, we can then reach out more effectively to others and show love and empathy to them also.
If we are filling our own emotional tanks with self-respect and loving care, we have much more to give to our families, friends, and the world in general.”
In my last post about healthy aging, we explored some basic ways to protect the brain. I promised in that post to provide some additional fun and effective ideas to improve memory for now and in the future. Here’s a list that can easily be incorporated into daily life. Choose one or two or go for all of them.
How to Improve Your Memory
Challenge your brain. You can read or do crosswords or watch football or play cards or brain games. Any or all of these are good. Make it even more effective by doing something new. If you’ve done crosswords forever, try learning to play video games. They’re not just for kids. Lots of research shows that the brain loves learning something novel.
Healthy aging depends upon a healthy brain. How many times do you start to say something only to find that the word or the name that is right there on the tip of your tongue just won’t come? It happens to me all the time and not only does it frustrate me; it frightens me.
I’m frightened of dementia, but I’m also scared of just the ordinary decline in cognitive ability that comes from the normal wear and tear on our brains as we get older. Our brains can atrophy – just like our muscles – and I want to do everything I can do to prevent or slow that decline.
Stress isn’t all bad. Being mildly stressed can actually help us perform better in a committee presentation or on the tennis court. It gives us a little edge, and it’s been around forever. It’s the thing that helped our ancestors outrun the saber-toothed tiger, and though the tiger is long gone, the stress of modern life – even in retirement – can rob us of the joy we seek at this time in our lives.
It’s living with chronic stress – that constant bombardment of worry and anxiety – that’s the real problem. You know that tight feeling you get in the middle of your chest or the pit of your stomach? Your heart pounds; your hands get sweaty; and you wake up worrying in the middle of the night. Eventually, it can lead to health problems by making our hearts work harder and harming our immune systems. That means that stress management should be a priority for all of us.
The good news is that there’s plenty we can do to control the stress in our lives. All we need is a plan! In the next few blog posts we’ll be talking about taking steps to conquer stress in our lives. Let’s get started right away.
Three easy steps to getting started with stress management: