Believe in something bigger than yourself. Look outside yourself and your immediate surroundings. We’ve been on a long journey in our work life and we’ve come to an ending only to begin anew.
Practice Optimism! You’ve had a productive career. You are finally reaching the “golden years.” Sure, there are some things we wished we still had. Like, maybe a waist!! But for the most part, we are reaping what we sowed.
Let’s take stock
- Did we exercise enough along the way?
- Did we eat healthily?
- Did we put away enough money (whatever that elusive amount equates to?)
- Have we developed interests outside of “work life?”
- Do we have healthy relationships with friends and family?
Whether it’s a result of life style or genetics, little things that crop up start to bother us. Subtle reminders that aging is an inevitable process that has inevitable results. As a result of physical, mental or external events, balance may seem just a little out of reach.
Realizing and accepting the reality of change enables you to “keep on keeping on” while choosing the best perspective to maintain that balance and peace. This is the point where you choose to see the glass as half full…not half empty.
Let’s do a little recap:
In prior Richly Aged…and Loving Life blogposts, we’ve offered common sense suggestions for playing nice with others…in other words, keeping healthy relationships with our “tribe” of friends, associates and family.
We’ve given a variety of ideas that dealt with ways to keep physically fit and by association, mentally fit. And, we’ve nourished a host of suggestions with diet tips and easily accessible resources.
Blend those tips together and apply to your new beginning and the future is nothing but bright for the real you. Again, a matter of perspective. Now let’s look outward.
Choose your Perspective
Someone wise, but evidently not with a very memorable name, said “Youth is wasted on the young.” I think that maybe what they really meant was that youth should last for an entire lifetime. And maybe, to a degree, with good planning, it can. That choice is up to you with the approach you take in this next life phase.
A lot of success in our lives is about choices. Choice was a luxury you didn’t necessarily get to use at work. Whether you chose to perform a task or not wasn’t a choice. Your attitude was always a choice.
In retirement whether you perform a task or not is your choice just as your attitude is a choice. I may hate cleaning the bathrooms at home but love the idea that I get to be at home instead of at work and I can do this when I want to. For many, the tradeoff is worth it. Easy attitude choice.
In previous posts, we discussed surrounding ourselves with people who have positive attitudes and life affirming outlooks. As much as we want to be around that kind of person…the reverse is also true.
Remember the song “Don’t Worry, Be Happy?” It was a #1 hit in 1988 and was by Bobby McFerrin. Choosing a “Be Happy” attitude rather than Winnie the Pooh’s friend, Eeyore’s, “Poor Me” attitude will be like a magnet to others and a boost to yourself. Another choice that’s win-win.
It’s time to look around you. In retirement you have more “looking around” time. There’s more to life than your “busyness.” Difficult to shift those gears after the rigid schedule of day to day work life, the commute and the responsibilities at home. But certainly, the difficult in this case is attainable.
Taking the time to look outward and upward and realize that you are not alone is a calming and peaceful gift. Considering spiritualty and humankind and the “why”of it all reminds me of lines from one of my favorite poems.
“All I could see from where I stood
Was three long mountains and a wood;
I turned and looked another way,
And saw three islands in a bay.
So with my eyes I traced the line
Of the horizon, thin and fine,
Straight around till I was come
Back to where I’d started from;
And all I saw from where I stood
Was three long mountains and a wood.”
This is only the first ten lines out of 200 plus lines in her beautiful poem. Click on the link above or here and enjoy the rest of Renascence.
What do you believe in that is bigger than yourself?
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