Positive Aging: Love the Body You Live In

New Year’s Revolution:  Part Three

Positive aging means accepting ourselves the way we are.  For years, every morning when I woke up, I’d hop out of bed, brush my teeth, and weigh myself (after stripping off my nightgown so that I didn’t weigh one ounce more than necessary).

The dreaded scales. Yikes!
The dreaded scales. Yikes!

The resulting number determined the start of my day:   A lower weight than yesterday sent me off with a wave of optimism and a positive mindset.  A higher weight triggered a sense of disappointment and sometimes even despair about ever getting to that perfect weight.

A little while ago it struck me like a bolt of lightning that I’ve been doing this since I was about 12 years old.  Enough of that!  It’s time to cherish the bodies we live in – with all our imperfections.  All of our lumps, bumps, and sags.  There’s a long ­history of women’s disdain for their bodies in America, but we need to push back against that idea, and here’s where we start. Continue reading Positive Aging: Love the Body You Live In

Age Positively in spite of “outdated stereotypes”

60's or 70's wrinkles and all. Pam and Dixie aging positively
60’s or 70’s wrinkles and all. Pam and Dixie aging positively

The December 27 post written by Pam, talked about her reaction to the “at your age” comment made by her doctor aged 36.  Her observation basically is that “at your age” is a comment made to seniors that fall into the “over the hill.” group.  As she said, there is a new paradigm for today’s seniors.

How to say Senior Citizens in a nice way.

Years ago, my company created a Celebration  Club 55 group of customers who merited special products, special presentations and special pricing.  While deciding on the group’s name intended for those 55 plus, various names like “Gold Group”, Silver Rewards, and, heaven forbid, “Senior Citizens” were all tossed out as too negative and offensive.

I was in my forties when this process took place and that was in the eighties last century.  Now, I’m 73 and have found there are a host of  euphemisms in use now to spare our “old age” feelings. Read on… Continue reading Age Positively in spite of “outdated stereotypes”

New Year’s Revolution: Part Two – Being Authentic

In search of ourselves

Last week I decided to give up New Year’s resolutions in favor of a New Year’s REVOLUTION – a new and positive way of looking at aging.  Part Two of this revolution is the decision to live the rest of my life in an authentic way.  I want my life on the outside to reflect the person I am on the inside.

Find out who you want to be and be it!
Find out who you want to be and be it!

Well, that shouldn’t be too difficult, considering that I’ve been this person for a long time now.  I should have it down.  I should be perfectly authentic.  But, the fact is, like a lot of women my age, (and men, too) it’s not so easy to find that person.  I’ve been busy, and I’m sure you have too, being the good wife, the good mother, the good employee, the good friend, the good committee member, etc., etc.  You get the picture.  Sometimes the real “us” gets lost in the roles we fulfill.

Becoming more who we are

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Richly aging is Positive aging

and a prosperous, healthy New Year.

Richly aging on New Year’s day includes adding another year to the years we have already experienced.  Each more precious than the year before.

The New Year’s resolution tradition has gone on since the Babylonians 4000 years ago.  Fortunately we haven’t experienced that many years!

As illustrated in this quotation, think of the first of a new year as an opportunity.

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.” – Edith Lovejoy Pierce”

 Top Ten resolutions most often listed:

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New Year’s Revolution: Positive Aging is a New Paradigm

Fill in the clock face to see if you are ” at your age,”

When I had my last physical, I was given a test for Alzheimer’s.  It’s the first time I’ve been asked to take the test.  I had to draw a clock face and remember some words.

When I asked my doctor about it – after he gave me my usual hug and told me I looked tired – he said, “Well, at your age . . .”   Sitting in that tiny examining room, I was gobsmacked.  “Oh, my gosh!  I’ve reached that age!”

How old is “at your age?”

You know the one I mean.  It’s the age where we’ve finally begun the steady decline from active and valuable adult into the stereotypical inactive and worthless old person.  At first I was terrified, and then I was furious!

At my age, huh?  My doctor is 36, but as a trained professional, he should know better! Continue reading New Year’s Revolution: Positive Aging is a New Paradigm

Managing Retirement Stress

Stress isn’t all bad.  Being mildly stressed can actually help us perform better in a committee presentation or on the tennis court.  It gives us a little edge, and it’s been around forever.  It’s the thing that helped our ancestors outrun the saber-toothed tiger, and though the tiger is long gone, the stress of modern life – even in retirement – can rob us of the joy we seek at this time in our lives.

It’s living with chronic stress – that constant bombardment of worry and anxiety – that’s the real problem.   You know that tight feeling you get in the middle of your chest or the pit of your stomach?  Your heart pounds; your hands get sweaty; and you wake up worrying in the middle of the night.  Eventually, it can lead to health problems by making our hearts work harder and harming our immune systems.    That means that stress management should be a priority for all of us.

Conquer your stress. It'll kill ya!
Conquer your stress. It’ll kill ya!

The good news is that there’s plenty we can do to control the stress in our lives.  All we need is a plan!  In the next few blog posts we’ll be talking about taking steps to conquer stress in our lives.  Let’s get started right away.

Three easy steps to getting started with stress management:

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